Archive for March 1st, 2011

So when do you know, when to say no?  I have to admit, I still struggle with this one.  Actually, it was much easier to say “no” when I was using.  Probably because I didn’t really care about anything but where my next drink/fix was coming from.  It was easy to blow off family and “friends” requests.  I could always come up with an excuse…I have to do this or that or I’m to tired or I don’t feel well (ha, that’s a bit ironic now that I think about it.)  I could con with the best of the cons to manipulate people into doing what I wanted or needed.  What does that have to do with saying no?  I never had to.

What a difference sobriety makes!  Unfortunately I still have trouble saying “no”, but it’s for different reasons.  Now I don’t want to say no because I want to enjoy all the responsibilities and rewards that go with being involved.  Sobriety has allowed me to feel what it’s like to feel.  To know and truly understand that when I say “no”, it’s for the right reasons. Ahhh, life is grand